Self-confidence is key in life
By: Coorey Robinson
Issue date: 2/5/09 Section: Opinion
One topic that keeps popping up among my friends and me is self-confidence, more specifically stuff dealing with social interaction. I can say I'm confident with myself because of my experiences, but I know that's not the case for other people.
I feel that the older you get, the more confident you should be with yourself. Personally, I've been through too much in my life to let the way others view me govern how I feel or act.
My advice to those individuals who do struggle in socializing is to put themselves into situations that they would normally avoid. Talk to the people in your class or on your floor in your dorm. Join an organization, do something social so that you can see where your strengths and weaknesses are in meeting people.
Even if you've waited this late in the game to start meeting new people, it's not too late. Yeah your social skills may be a little bad, but so what? You have to start somewhere right?
I believe that every individual owes it to himself or herself to not live in fear of what other people may think of him or her. Who are they to define who you are? I've met some phenomenal people in my life, but they are held back in a lot of things they do, because they live with that never ending fear of what other people may say.
I've come to learn that half the time people just don't know what the hell they're talking about anyway. They only say and do things because somebody else said or did it, so that "makes it right." You should never limit yourself because of other people. You deserve more than that. Everyone does.
The year is still fairly new, so instead of making superficial resolutions for other people, do yourself a favor and decree that in 2009, you couldn't care less about what people think about you.
Now I'm not telling anyone to just go outside looking like, "Who did it? And why?", but just do what you feel like, and tell everyone else to log off your space.
Some people may contest this, but I still believe that a lot of people still live sheltered lives in college. Yeah we've learned and experienced a ton of new stuff since high school, but most of us still don't deal with the real hassles of the big, bad, real world. It won't be long before we take that jump into the next chapter of our lives, so it's your duty to make sure that you are as well equipped as you can when your time comes. If people are as mean as my elders have made them out to be, then the world will eat the timid alive, so don't you be the main course.
Things may be a little shaky when you first start trying to talk to people, but that part is only temporary. It's part of the whole growing process and all that good stuff. It's time for you to start truly being you. You've got to live your life for you, so start now if you feel like you haven't.
Why not?
I feel that the older you get, the more confident you should be with yourself. Personally, I've been through too much in my life to let the way others view me govern how I feel or act.
My advice to those individuals who do struggle in socializing is to put themselves into situations that they would normally avoid. Talk to the people in your class or on your floor in your dorm. Join an organization, do something social so that you can see where your strengths and weaknesses are in meeting people.
Even if you've waited this late in the game to start meeting new people, it's not too late. Yeah your social skills may be a little bad, but so what? You have to start somewhere right?
I believe that every individual owes it to himself or herself to not live in fear of what other people may think of him or her. Who are they to define who you are? I've met some phenomenal people in my life, but they are held back in a lot of things they do, because they live with that never ending fear of what other people may say.
I've come to learn that half the time people just don't know what the hell they're talking about anyway. They only say and do things because somebody else said or did it, so that "makes it right." You should never limit yourself because of other people. You deserve more than that. Everyone does.
The year is still fairly new, so instead of making superficial resolutions for other people, do yourself a favor and decree that in 2009, you couldn't care less about what people think about you.
Now I'm not telling anyone to just go outside looking like, "Who did it? And why?", but just do what you feel like, and tell everyone else to log off your space.
Some people may contest this, but I still believe that a lot of people still live sheltered lives in college. Yeah we've learned and experienced a ton of new stuff since high school, but most of us still don't deal with the real hassles of the big, bad, real world. It won't be long before we take that jump into the next chapter of our lives, so it's your duty to make sure that you are as well equipped as you can when your time comes. If people are as mean as my elders have made them out to be, then the world will eat the timid alive, so don't you be the main course.
Things may be a little shaky when you first start trying to talk to people, but that part is only temporary. It's part of the whole growing process and all that good stuff. It's time for you to start truly being you. You've got to live your life for you, so start now if you feel like you haven't.
Why not?
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