Writer explains how to play the dating game
By: Tonishia Hagans
Issue date: 10/1/08 Section: Opinion
According to U.S. Census Bureau there are 95.7 million unmarried and single Americans, 54 percent of whom are women. Because of these numbers, people are always dating, always on the prowl looking for their perfect match. I listen to my peers talk about how they have either been on some wonderful dates or on some very horrific dates. I want to give you some advice that my friends have given me and that I've picked up along the way.
The best thing people can do for themselves or for the person they are dating is to be honest. Honesty is key in any relationship, whether it lasts a week or a lifetime. Be true to who you are. Do not change who you are, trying to fit the persona you think the person you are dating wants. Be yourself and nobody else. Changing who you are only causes problems in the long run for your relationship because the real you will eventually come out.
Be confident. When you act insecure it shows. Sometimes people become intimidated by a person because they don't believe they are good enough or cute enough for that person. If you make it to the point where you are on a date with that person, apparently you are their type on some level. So, put your head up and your shoulders back, and believe in yourself enough to know that you are just as worthy as the next person.
Leave the past in the past. Don't go on a date with a new person complaining about your ex. Do not punish the new person in your life for something someone in your past did. Do not compare your ex with your new beau.
Express yourself. Don't be afraid to tell your spouse how you feel. Everybody wants to feel wanted or needed, maybe not all the time but sometime, especially women. Women like to know that their guy still has that same attraction to them as they did the first day he saw them, if not more. When a woman is with her man, she likes to feel like she is the most beautiful woman and in that moment there is no other woman who can top her. So guys, if you're wondering why your girlfriend is always asking questions like "Do I look cute in this?" or "Do you think she is prettier than me?" That's why.
The best thing people can do for themselves or for the person they are dating is to be honest. Honesty is key in any relationship, whether it lasts a week or a lifetime. Be true to who you are. Do not change who you are, trying to fit the persona you think the person you are dating wants. Be yourself and nobody else. Changing who you are only causes problems in the long run for your relationship because the real you will eventually come out.
Be confident. When you act insecure it shows. Sometimes people become intimidated by a person because they don't believe they are good enough or cute enough for that person. If you make it to the point where you are on a date with that person, apparently you are their type on some level. So, put your head up and your shoulders back, and believe in yourself enough to know that you are just as worthy as the next person.
Leave the past in the past. Don't go on a date with a new person complaining about your ex. Do not punish the new person in your life for something someone in your past did. Do not compare your ex with your new beau.
Express yourself. Don't be afraid to tell your spouse how you feel. Everybody wants to feel wanted or needed, maybe not all the time but sometime, especially women. Women like to know that their guy still has that same attraction to them as they did the first day he saw them, if not more. When a woman is with her man, she likes to feel like she is the most beautiful woman and in that moment there is no other woman who can top her. So guys, if you're wondering why your girlfriend is always asking questions like "Do I look cute in this?" or "Do you think she is prettier than me?" That's why.
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Toni Miller
posted 10/07/08 @ 9:19 PM CST
Ms. Hagans,are you a dating expert?
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